Please help yourself

You should have control on you. I mean things you do should be in moderation and nothing should be in extreme! Anything in extreme is bad, let it be your love or anger.
Love in extreme becomes obsession and the person about whom you are obsessed may not feel comfortable being with you for long time. So love but give space as well, wherever needed so that the person don't feel that he/she is bound by you and living with you is formality or compulsion. Instead, love them, give them space to do what they want to and then see they will enjoy being with you as you set them free to do what they wish to. They will be happy always in your company. Sometimes spaces helps in increasing closeness. Remember? Duriyaan bhi hai zaroori... (song from break ke baad) but even this should be in moderation. You should not be away for such a long time that the person start living without you, nor you should stop interfering or sharing things with each other that you lose the trail of things happening in each others life. Have a balanced blend of everything in right proportion so that the taste of life can be perfect. Add salt and spice as per your requirements, taste but it should tasty in the end, spicy, very very spicy and sometimes sweet as well... ;)
Secondly few people can't control their anger. Even I can't, likewise I'm always calm but when it hit me hard or water level rises above my head then I burst out. I'm the most short tempered person in my whole family, even my Parents fear my anger. (not proud of it or something but it's in a way embarrassing for me.) You can't be proud of your limitations, isn't it? Though few people can, there are always exceptions to the general rule. :p
Mostly I just shut my mouth when I'm angry, I feel it's better not to utter words which would make me regret  later. And it works very well as well, when I'm silent people around could smell the unusual and sometimes apologise for their mistakes. Where as if you just insult others or speak harsh words when you are angry, later on you will have to apologise for you have hurt them. See, how things turn upside down. Where you were angry on others wrong deeds here you yourself end apologizing. That's why I hate getting angry. Even if you don't apologize the guilt kills you from inside. Secondly, there are few people who could not control their anger as well as could not control it's intensity as well. Once they are angry, you are dead then. They will whole day make you listen for your wrong done. But even this is not good, mistakes are done by humans. You can always make people realise that what they are doing is wrong, getting angry will just make them feel that you have started and now will not stop. So they might lose all their interest in trying to understand your point. You may be doing this out of great concern for them but in this way it'll not serve the purpose and they will feel that your mood is bad on something else so you are taking it all out on them, which may not be the case always. So, get angry but control yourself so that you just don't go on and on with it but make out reasonable points and stop, give them time to think on your words. If you continuously get angry starting with one thing and continue will all different issues, you will end up confusing the person about what the real matter is, why you are actually angry? They will lose all their interest in trying to understand your valid points and all your efforts will be waste by the end of it. Some people are very lovely but because of this one limitation of getting angry uncontrollably set off all their kindness. I know it should not be so. You should not be judgmental by one thing, but that's the way it goes. So please, control yourselves. Have control on you. Let your loved once love you for your love and concern for them. Take proper efforts to explain yourself and your feelings than getting misunderstood on a limitation. Think on it, you might be able to accept my points.