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Things You Should Stop Expecting from Others

The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations. This is especially true when it comes to our relationships and interactions with others.

Tempering your expectations of other people will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration and suffering, in both your life and theirs, and help you refocus on the things that truly matter.

Which means it’s time to…

1. Stop expecting them to agree with you.
You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life you are excited about. Don’t let the opinions of others make you forget that. You are not in this world to live up to the expectations of others, nor should you feel that others are here to live up to yours. In fact, the more you approve of your own decisions in life, the less approval you need from everyone else.

You have to dare to be yourself, and follow your own intuition, however frightening or strange that may feel or prove to be. Don’t compare yourself to others. Don’t get discouraged by their progress or success. Follow your own path and stay true to your own purpose. Success is ultimately about spending your life happily in your own way.

2. Stop expecting them to respect you more than you respect yourself.
True strength is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles. It’s about having faith and trust in who you are, and a willingness to act upon it. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself.

Today, look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you, and from now on I’m going to act like it.” It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself. When you practice self-love and self-respect, you give yourself the opportunity to be happy. When you are happy, you become a better friend, a better family member, and a better YOU.

3. Stop expecting (and needing) them to like you.
You might feel unwanted and unworthy to one person, but you are priceless to another. Don’t ever forget your worth. Spend time with those who value you. No matter how good you are to people, there will always be one negative person who criticizes you. Smile, ignore them, and carry on.

In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, the toughest battle you’ll ever have to fight is the battle to be yourself. And as you’re fighting back, not everyone will like you. Sometimes people will call you names because you’re “different.” But that’s perfectly OK. The things that make you different are the things that make YOU, and the right people will love you for it.

4. Stop expecting them to fit your idea of who they are.
Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves. When you stop expecting people to be a certain way, you can begin to appreciate THEM.

Pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for who you want them to be. We don’t know most people half as well as we believe we do; and truly knowing someone is a big part of what makes them wonderful. Every human being is remarkable and beautiful; it just takes a patient set of eyes to see it. The more you get to know someone, the more you will be able to look beyond their appearance and see the beauty of who they truly are.

5. Stop expecting them to know what you’re thinking.
People can’t read minds. They will never know how you feel unless you tell them. Your boss? Yeah, he doesn’t know you’re hoping for a promotion because you haven’t told him yet. That cute guy you haven’t talked to because you’re too shy? Yeah, you guessed it, he hasn’t given you the time of day simply because you haven’t given him the time of day either.

In life, you have to communicate with others regularly and effectively. And often, you have to open your vocal cords and speak the first words. You have to tell people what you’re thinking. It’s as simple as that.

6. Stop expecting them to suddenly change.
If there’s a specific behavior someone you care about has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t. If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows how you feel and what you need them to do.

For the most part though, you can’t change people and you shouldn’t try. Either you accept who they are or you choose to live without them. It might sound harsh, but it’s not. When you try to change people, they often remain the same, but when you don’t try to change them – when you support them and allow them the freedom to be as they are – they gradually change in the most beautiful way. Because what really changes is the way you see them.

7. Stop expecting them to be “OK.”
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle, just like you. Every smile or sign of strength hides an inner struggle every bit as complex and extraordinary as your own.

Remember that embracing your light doesn’t mean ignoring your dark. We are measured by our ability to overcome adversities and insecurities, not avoid them. Supporting, sharing and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. This happens naturally if we allow it, because we all share very similar dreams, needs and struggles. Once we accept this, the world then is a place where we can look someone else in the eye and say, “I’m lost and struggling at the moment,” and they can nod and say, “Me too,” and that’s OK. Because not being “OK” all the time, is perfectly OK.

Afterthoughts People rarely behave exactly the way you want them to. Hope for the best, but expect less. And remember, the magnitude of your happiness will be directly proportional to your thoughts and how you choose to think about things. Even if a situation or relationship doesn’t work out at all, it’s still worth it if it made you feel something new, and if it taught you something new.

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31st wedding anniversary of my Parents

Today Mom and Dad completed 31 years of marital experience with each other.
💑👫
Awesome isn't it? 😃
Indian wedding are mostly arranged by their families. In previous generation they use to meet their mates only after marriage. So strange, now at least people get choice to decide and yet they seems to be having difficulty in keeping up with their relationship.
May be people were more patient then and now more rightful. Now no one wish to do any compromise for the whole life. But isn't TRUE LOVE all about SACRIFICE too?
Well, I can write for hours on this topic I guess but would like to over flow my thoughts some other day. 😉😁

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY MOM DAD! 😊😘
LOVE YOU BOTH a lot. 😍💝

Back on TRACK!

Hi all! 😊
I know it's been too long than anyone including myself would have ever thought that I will be away from my passion, BLOGGING!
NEVER MIND! 😊
I never cease to SURPRISE, neither myself nor did to others. 😜
Writing with my #samsungtab3 is indeed difficult for me comparatively, lack of practice indeed.
Never mind, am very thoughtful of returning to my blog with the same passion as before.
Leaving the explanation & apology apart, because don't wanna get into those details. But am back coz now I thought I will be able to justify my comeback rather I should have wrote for sake of writing! 😉
Tons of thanks for the followers/readers of my blog for bearing my thoughts as well as my writing, BRAVE YOU ALL ARE! 😂 Hope you all are ready to bear more?! 😉😜

Looking forward to pouring my ideas on this wall more frequently! 😊
See ya soon 🙋

Living to live more...

Sometimes you just love to be on your own... No known person around you to talk to but your voice which you listen to. Just your heartbeat, your brain, your body and soul that you think about and also about others but not listening to someone or talking to someone but to yourself. You and your thoughts and the cool breeze coming from window of the train at night. Everything out of window seems running back but the true fact is you are moving ahead towards your destination.
At that moment you don't even wish to listen to songs but sing your own song, from deep inside your heart.
Analysing your life, analysing yourself, your character, your values, your true self, your day, your surrounding, your wishes, your dreams, your desires, your accomplishments, your life's sweet memories. Collecting all positive thoughts and memories and making bunch of it and tying it tight and keeping it in the centre of your heart and mind that gives you peace, self satisfaction, pride, happiness now and you save that bunch of happiness for future and keep adding to it more of the happiness.

Life is so amazing that when I listen about MOKSHA, I feel I want to relive life and understand it more and more and become better person in every life than I was in previous one. And may be after I have fulfilled all my dreams may my soul rest in peace. Until then I wish to live life to have the truth in me, to have the best character, to learn each day new values and culture for my betterment as a person, to get love as much as I can and to give love more than I get, to live life in such a way that my heart and soul live at peace from inside, not for money, not for luxury, not for hate, not for revenge, not for people, not for success, not for anything else but for my learning...
I bow to my life in contention and happiness, for beauty it has and for it's love and blessings.

Na Ghar ke na Ghaat ke

In fulfilling others expectations and desires you forget your own expectations with you, your own desires and yet no one seems satisfied with you!
It feels you should not care about others expectations with you at least you'll be happy satisfying yourself.
Nahi toh na Ghar ke aur na Ghaat ke! :-D

Thank you

I'm grateful for my life for I'm born normal, because I got lovely family who loves me, cares for me, who had nurtured me and so much they've done for me, it's priceless and unexplained in words.
I'm thankful for all people that I've ever met, known, talked to because of them I've always learnt so much that I would not have learnt otherwise in books, about this life.

But I'm very very thankful for having the education that I got. I'm more mature, intelligent and could earn my living coz of it. I'm happy to have got superb teachers who not only taught me about books but about life too. They're all great people and I'm very grateful to have learnt from them all.

I'm much much thankful to have got such superb friends. They're not only intelligent but are superb persons too. Humble, understanding, mature, helpful, loving, caring and most supportive. I've learnt so much from each of my friends too. I'm lucky to have all of them in my life. They've inspired me when I needed, they supported me when I was broken, they helped me to forget all negative thoughts and helped me in having a positive look out for life. Without them, I would not have been what I'm. All my friends play very important role in my life and I'm blessed to have them in my life. May we remain friends forever. Though I know itna jaldi picha chodne wale nahi hai unlog! :-P ;-)

I'm most grateful to have been able to READ coz of which my life could take new shapes and become better. All those superb writers whose books I've read, their writing has not only inspired me but have many times given me new life, new means to live. I'm truly grateful to them all. Hoping to read more great works by great people.

Last but not least, to all those who have given me respect, who give me values, who consider me as their asset, who believe in me, who have faith in me, who trust me, who LOVE me truly, who have given me all their love and affection, may be in any form or expressed in any way. I'm very very thankful to all those lovely people.

Thank you GOD, for giving me this life!
I'm short of words to thank you God and I got no reason to tell you why I'm so grateful to you, you know it all, they say. So thank you for you know ALL! ;-)
:-)

May God keep their blessings on me and all of us, forever.

The cobbler

I left from office and suddenly noticed that my sandal had half broken. As I moved half way towards railway station it broke completely and I had to walk with one bare foot and one foot with sandal. It was embarrassing! :-D
Since it's my new Job, I don't know the locality much. I tried to search the cobbler but didn't find any. Then I took help of another street vendor and he told me correctly where I can find a cobbler who can make my sandal. I had to go back a bit, toward office again. I found one at right place where I couldn't before with my eyes but now after the vendors mapping. :-D funny!

I gave my sandal to the old man and stood looking around. After few minutes I had a look at what the cobbler was doing with my sandals. It was 4th or 5th time that they have broken and now getting stitched. All scope of getting stitched again seems to have exhausted, according to me, but that is where to my amusement what this cobbler did and how he did it surprised me. He co-joint the extra part of leather and then stitched it. No cobbler has done that.
He took his own time to do it but he did it in most perfect manner.
I always believe- no matter what you do, do it perfectly.
I was impressed with his sincerity towards his work, his perfection, his dedication, his patience.

The mistake I mostly commit is, in doing things in hurry I fail to do it with accuracy.
Today I learnt, it's important to have perfection. No matter how much time it takes but work should be done with perfection.
The satisfaction of doing such work is quite different and now I know the satisfaction of having your work done perfectly. Now I'll try to give this satisfaction to my clients too. :-)

Each day and moment of this life is a learning...
Just be alive and look around. :-)

First first...

This is something unique and new... There is always first, as they say... This is for first time for me too!
Actually, I never celebrated my birthday publicly, it never came during school days or college days (though there are possibilities that I didn't went to college, even if it would have come! :-P), nor when I was at office (was on audits most of the time...) and rarest rarely it once happened that it was on day I had lecture at class, back in 2009 I guess! I was literally not interested in going to class. I felt shy! Yeah, I can too be shy sometimes! ;-) :-P but I went and felt very embarrassing too when people wished me, though I wished no one would have!
I can only accept my family and friends to wish me, coz I feel that it matters to them at some level that I'm in their life. Rest, other world, just coz they come to know about it and wish me, I don't find any sense!?
May be because of this pattern, I never liked accepting the fact that today of my birthday. I never go and tell anyone that, "Hey, you know what!? TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY!" I never did that. In fact round about I feel no one should know it's my birthday. I know it's damn strange but I feel awkward, I don't know what to say or how to react when someone whom I don't expect to wish me, wishes me?!
I mean it's good that it's my birthday but what is so much special in it, I feel. I just want this day to be normal, like any other day. I just want to be with family and close friends. Before I didn't had this much acceptance too but now over the years I've learnt to accept it that it cannot be completely normal day. My Mom asks me what special I want to eat and they make me that, I brothers plan something surprising, my friends too come to my place and unexpectedly looking them I feel good. This much of celebration is quite enough for me. Before I even felt shy to cut cake, now I do it normally...
My Family wishes me sharp at 12am, if by any chance I'm asleep I'm woken up and wished. My best friends too call on 12, all are KUMBHAKARAN's still wake up till 12am and take efforts (or purposely to trouble me! :-P) call me or text me. My cousins also call at 12am. God! Next day I even forget whether the B'day is over yesterday night itself or still remaining! Ha ha ha... :-D
Before I had hidden my birthday date from social networking sites too. But now I keep it visible (don't faint, it's true! :-P) I also reply thanks to all those who wish me. Now I have gathered this much of acceptance...
But this year it's most unique than any other year it could be. My birthday on the EXAM day! Wow I'm so damn EXCITED! :-\ LOL... I have EXAM on the very day! Wow...

I want to switch off my mobile phone. But that would be so RUDE of ME! :O :-\ I know... I know... But I don't know what to do... Obviously no time to feel any special about this day, as I like.
But then others do feel it to be special and I respect that they love me for whatever and whoever I'm!
Just want to thank all those people who take efforts and remember me and my existence in this world!
I wish over the years I too accept it as a special day and learn to react normally how other people do.

PS: Best part is I'm not at office. They cut cake and ask to distribute chocolates to each and every colleague. This is beyond my imagination. I would have bunk office had I had it on the day, I'm sure! :-P
It is so embarrassing... :-D I never did that ever in my life (till now) ;-)
I'm MAD! I know...

One thing I do normally is I  accept GIFTS from anyone happily, for IT'S MY BIRTHDAY! :-)

Let them fall!

Few people learn only after they fall! No matter how hard you try but they shall never learn from others mistakes or guidance.
Beyond a point you can't make anyone understand what they'll end up into. Sometimes, you can only wait and watch the show, sometimes a bad show, but you have to witness it, for it's meant to be so...

I walk alone

May be this is the only best way to live. All alone...
No people, no expectations, no love, no trust, no betrayal, no breach, no sorrows, nothing, just nothing...

Broken trust

I don't know why this life is testing me beyond my tolerance level?
Coming across few truths is sometimes so worst that you realise it was better when you were unknown to them. Coz after knowing about it, each breath seems unbearable. There seems no solution to it. Over and above you can't share it with anyone is the worst feeling. Keeping things locked in your heart forever and continuing to bear it is like dying each moment silently.
When time is crucial and important, why unusual things come in existence to occupy all mind space and leave vacuum in the heart forever!?

Life would be easy alone than to have fake people in it...

Selfish PEOPLE-Selfish WORLD

When outsiders behave with you practically, never showing any concern or care about what may happen to you, you still can accept their this strange behavior and live with it!
But...
When your own people, whom you know since birth, for whom you've sacrificed and who has sacrificed for you, when all of sudden they show carefree attitude, it hurts beyond any console! :’(
And you can tell no one about this feeling...

May be it's better to learn to not expect anything from anyone in this WORLD, where everyone is SELFISH by some or other means! :-\

Challenges of life

Being faced by challenges, you do doubt whether you'll be able to do it or not! That too if you have time shorter than you expect then the target seems more difficult to be achieved. Somehow you still boost your confidence. There comes the worst part, when almost everyone around you point out at you and say, DO YOU REALLY THINK YOU'LL BE ABLE TO DO IT?
After listening this my blood boils and all my energies comes to one place and it can only see ONE GOAL and it cannot think about anything else but only and only about my dreams and goals which I have to achieve. Coz all those interrogations prove that this is what the world can do to you! PULL YOU DOWN, DOUBT ON YOU! But you have to decide whether you want to fall or RISE, whether to give up or TRY?
You cannot loose the battle until and unless it begins. And my battle has not yet begin.
New CHALLENGES are acceptable to ME and I will soon prove everyone that it might sound difficult but it is definitely not IMPOSSIBLE.

"I MIGHT NOT WIN IMMEDIATELY BUT I'LL WIN DEFINITELY!" :-|

You'll not be killed

When you are in complete mess and have no idea of what you're doing and what's going on with you, around you! Only one person, you know, can take you otta the mess but then the fear of facing the person with this situation in none less than an encounter with a wild animal but... But somehow the feeling creeps in that somehow you want to be otta this mess, no matter what! And you gather all courage in you, aaj main solution nikal ke rahungi, and head ahead to get things sorted out. Coz dying once is better than dying each moment everyday! And you think, worst to worst case you'll have to listen harsh words! You'll not be killed... Phew!!!! This realisation is awesome... You will not be killed... Coz as a human being the worst fear for us is of losing this life... Hmmm... And no encounter with your boss could be life threatening! :-P ;-)
So, keeping aside my self respect, I went to the boss! After few harsh words, though less than what I had imagined, finally problem got solved!
Gosh! It's over forever...
Sometimes we imagine things to be like a mountain though they turn out to be just a big stone... :-)
Hence, never fear of anyone and take the step towards truth and courage... :-)

Never ending wait...

Sometimes you keep waiting for someone but deep inside you know you're waiting unnecessarily but you still keep hope and wait for them to come back... But positive attitude doesn't help always! You know it's not going to happen ever but you still hope and pray and wish for it to happen...
Sometimes, not by others but we ourselves get fooled by us!
Why is it so hard to accept the reality and face the facts?!

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Fashion statement relations!

One of my cousin, who met me last year for the first time at one of another cousins marriage and we shared our contact. Like whole world around me, he too is on Watsapp. He always starts interviewing me and bombard with all sort of interrogations. I've myself hardly noticed what's my favourite color, food, place, subject, TV show, movie, etc etc but when he asks I've to answer it as I can't ignore him. Otherwise I've created record in avoiding unknown messengers, but he is family so I had to entertain, though only upto a limit I can! I think and answer. But all of sudden, a weird question came up today and it was, don't you have a boyfriend? More than being shocked for this question I was laughing, it sounded funny. Rather than answering I kept smiling for few mins looking at the question. Finally I typed, what's reality and that is NO!
I wondered what he might have thought of me that me being a girl from Mumbai, big city it's deemed that I would be in relationship! Even if it would be fake one but still it's kinda in fashion these days to employ yourself a boyfriend or a girlfriend. If you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend then you're not cool, isn't it? Well don't know... Never pondered much about it. I have male friends but good that they're just friends and nothing more coz I liked it that way and happy that it remained so. Of course future can always be different and surprising but I have my own choices and preferences and it would be difficult for someone to fit into it! :-P
As for I don't believe in messaging unknowns and somehow just chatting with them and then you end up meeting and blah blah... It's all crap... I believe into only talking and sharing with people whom I know very personally, whom I've seen in real, talked in real. That's the way I like it to be. I've heard people being friends on some social networking sites and then they share their contact and along with chatting, they start talking and may be even meet but then either of one shows true picture and the whole think come out to be fake and baseless and other end up being hurt. What rubbish! I hate all such things and whether hurt or whatever I never except unknown calls, never reply messages from unknowns, block people on Watsapp who message me but whom I don't know, yes I've done that! It's better to avoid any fake things before it starts than waste your time. Life is too short to waste behind trying to know someone whom you never knew! There are many people in my life whom I know and I'm happy that they're in my life and I would love to find time to maintain my relationship with them rather than go for some fake ones.
For fun I can't imagine of getting in relationship with someone. As I always say, NO relationship is better than BAD relationship!
I'm happy SINGLE. Very happy in fact! :-)
Everything has it's right time in your Life and when that time comes you do end up being into it and enjoy that new experience. Till then enjoy present and hope best for the future! :-)

P. S. Try to find real happiness rather than get trapped into fiction world. It could be dangerous sometimes. Social networks are to be in touch with those whom you knew but are away from you. So stay in touch with your loved ones and make better use of technology.

Who are you?

I'm a daughter to my parents. I'm a sister to my brothers or sisters. I'm a friend to my friends. I'm an employee to my boss. I'm a wife to my husband. I'm a sister-in-law/ daughter-in-law to my in-laws. I'm a mother to my children. I'm a helper to my neighbours. I'm an anchor to my sports team. I'm this... I'm that... But who am I to myself?  Yes?
This question had made me restless. I do this and that for others who expect from me for some or other reason called love and affection sometimes or sometimes it's some sheer responsibility of mine being associated to them. But what about things I've to do in life? What about things that I love to do, I would love to do, I had to do for me, my own happiness? What? Nothing! Huh...
In fulfilling desires and wishes and expectations of others around us we completely forget our own individuality, our own wills, desires, choices, aims, goals and everything else... Just because we can't hurt others, we can't crush their dreams, their hopes, their expectations, etc...
But this life of ours is also one na! What about it? In living for others one day our last day will come and then we'd regret on our death bed for not doing anything we desired. Though there will be thousands of people praising you being good to them but had you been good to yourself? This question will not cease with their fulfillment of desires.
Please know what's your dream, what's your aim, goal, what's your idea about your own life? What is it? Know it and follow it...
I will try it for myself hope you know yours.

Struggle to live

When I think about SUICIDE it only gives one thought to me, I've struggled so much to come on this earth, I had been trapped for 9 months into a womb. I had struggled so much and learnt to walk, talk, think, laugh, cry, feel... I had struggled so much to do so many things and just because something, I know this something meant big, it might have meant life for you, but in no way could it be more than your life. No! Cannot! Never! Just remember all the struggles you did to live till now and think whether this one thing can erase the efforts of all past struggles and make you lose everything including your self respect! Yes, indeed, none of suicider had ever been praised but always being tagged as a loser who cannot win over his/her own emotions. Decision of dying can surely not be easy but dying probably is than living. Face yourself, your situation, your problem, others and make your life worthy.

Disclaimer: I wondered all this after watching suicide scene in Dhoom-3!
Nothing serious guys, calm down! :-P