#1 Musings

Writing is so many times a great struggle in combination with the hurdle of lack of thoughts at times while at other times lack of interest in typing long words and a few times lack of motivation could pop up.

In the past few years I have gone through all of these phases several times and equal number of times tried to cope up with it however it ain't easy! It is sometimes busyness of work life that takes haul over you and no matter how hard you try to pull off it keeps getting difficult and even if you write the continuity is what matter the most I feel.

Just want to keep this post short and sweet hoping to maintain persistent approach and will try to constantly update, upgrade my writing and improve it while in the process aiming to provide some thoughtful input to the readers to help them in someway (not sure how! but any ways possible adding value matters).

Thought of the day: Keep practicing the thing you want to learn, daily small steps taken could always lead you ahead of the one big attempt you may aim to take.

Learn and share. Ciao! :) 

It's a choice that one can make

There are so many things and decision in life that are so implicitly present that we fail to ever realise that it's not compulsive or obligatory but a matter of personal choice.

I remember once listening to an amazing conversation between couples (on YouTube Relationship Theory) about how they chose to not have kids and why they thought so (I don't think their reasoning matters here) and as if the sky fell on my consciousness that I realised that I never never never, not even in my wildest dreams ever thought of thinking that having kids is actually a choice that a couple can make. I always thought that may be yeah the timing of their arrival is something that people could decide, when they're prepared to become parents but not that they can choose not to be one.

And I failed myself badly when I tried to reason why couldn't it be a choice to not have kids. It's not something that is necessary yet it's a great responsibility all together to nurture and bring up a life into the world and give them the values that could help not just the human being but the entire universe for people touch each other's lives and affect each other at so many levels.

I felt miserable and terrible and yet amazed all at the same time. It was as if a new thought was given to me, new way of looking at the world. It was definitely the shortcoming of my thoughts that I failed to realise that due to the surrounding I lived in and people I am accompanied by and the society in large which has so many obligations place on others involving the AGE at which people should get married if not then their whole life is getting wasted, and once the person is married the peer societal pressure of having the first kid and then after one the next is still on... So basically we live in a society where others decide not just about the career that one should be in to be called as successful but also the age at which one should get married (no matter what and hell to whom, just forget about the happiness, caste is all that matters) and then the years within which one should have the kids after their marriage and whether or not and when should one have their next child (not to mention the expectation of having a male child for everyone, and who shall they marry in future? Well this topic can go for having another blog post altogether, so let's skip this!)

Having seen people (especially females) who face difficulty in conceiving and their all life long struggle of getting themselves treatments for the same including years of medication followed by sometimes getting their body operated I felt terrible. There are people who see their lives as incomplete and unfulfilled without having any children of their own. I wonder is it actually that they really want it or just the another way of seeking validation and meeting up others expectations (family and society) that they try so hard and their whole life comes to a standstill and all that they ever dream and desire of having is a child. Not that I'm opposed to accepting that one could place their happiness in being parent. But does it means so much that it could be made struggle of the rest of whole life?

As the role of females have drastically changed in today's modern era raising kids and giving them essential time is a great struggle. Trying to feel fulfilled in our life but not being able to justify the role and accept the complete responsibility is it acceptable? Just for others fulfillment ending up making our life a big struggle for the rest of the life is it happiness?

I remember old days when woman who couldn't conceive were considered as waste and cursed and treated ill by the families. Instances also included man marrying other woman.(including the desire to have son, if couldn't be provided by a wife) It's linked with legacy. But we fail to realise what great deeds have we done to ever think of leaving behind our legacy after us in this world that the world will fall apart if it cannot happen or if people really think that their legacy is so much important then what values so they offer to their next generation that could change the course of the world in coming years?

No, all we ever think is that's how it is and so is how we SHOULD (less of we WANT) live life.

Lastly, to feel fulfilled in a relationship with our partner is it so important for a couple to have  kid/s then isn't their love dependable on the happening or non happening of an event? Could it be really termed as fulfilled relationship between the two? And when two cannot support and stand for each other at times of need why should one ever be with that kind of a person?

Have you ever thought of it?

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Being Selfish

Those who say about themselves and/or those whom others say that they are selfish, are they really selfish COMPLETELY?!
It is easy to think about our own selfish needs with regards to materialistic things BUT when it comes to VALUE, MORALE, CULTURE, CHARACTER, etc., terms, almost everyone become selfless and want OTHER person to have those in them than thinking about oneself, isn't it?

Why can't we be selfish when it comes to showing good character, having good values, imbibing great morale into us? We all want others to understand and behave properly to us all the time whilst save ourself from every situation with some excuse. Rather it's that we hardly think about ourself and our behaviour and always try to point out our index on others and find faults in their wrong doings, correct them than either try to think from their point of view or think of how we as an individual could have changed the scenario from being ruined, do we? Do we think what can we improve in ourself today? Do you think about the day at it's end and just think of good things you did and about the not so good moments how could they be improved by yourself only solely by you changing something in you, may it be your perspective towards that situation or any small act or a positive thought or just forgiving the person who did something not acceptable, do we?

Indeed the answer lies inside us...

Sometimes it's good to be selfish you see... ;)
Just think about YOU first then about others!

Ciao!

Thankful to almighty

Life has so many incidences...
They're chapters to our story written by God. And every chapter has a moral. If the moral is leant then chapter gets closed and new one begins. If the moral is not leant, the chapter keeps going...

Until we serve the life's purpose the story doesn't end.

I'm thankful to each chapter and the moral I've learning. Good or bad, whatever the experience has been, the joinery of life always have amazed me with its surprises, with the ups and downs, with the twist and turns, with the dead ends and the new discovery of paths... 😊

Every single life seems means to our soul's learning which reaches its destination in our last life when we learn our last lessons and may be reach to a great heights as a person or living being.

Planning for life

It's very essential to have a plan for your life.
Being alive it's such a wonderful feeling... 😊
Since I'm alive and want to live life to it's fullest it's essential that I draw rough route to where I want to head in this journey of life and then as I come close to the turns I may take decisions and make those rough goals into final decisive ones and step ahead in the journey...
The plan that you carve may not have most of the real difficulties that you're going to face but then as you come across them you may realize about them and accordingly prepare yourself for future.
One thing that should be understood its, disheartening will not help you. No matter how difficult it becomes too walk, no matter how hard the path becomes, no matter how unhappy and unfaithful life seems, no matter how unwanted and meaningless you find yourself in this world, no matter how useless you think you're... But the reality it's, you've a ROLE to play and this role leads through these paths, sometimes meaningless, sometimes meaningful, whatever or its, you've to LIVE!

Forgiveness...

A scene on a daily soap, HIT ME HARD deep inside...  Couldn't stop from sharing it at this place which is so much MINE... ☺

THE HUSBAND returns after years ever since he got frustrated and left his WIFE & a very young daughter of 2-3 year old who were not only dependent on him for finances but also for LOVE and expected a normal life. After he returns the wife goes into the flashback and remembers how she BEGGED to him to not leave them alone.

So strange i felt after watching the scene... 
A PERSON decides to leave everything because he is frustrated of everything and everyone around. He wanted to get rid of EVERYONE and be alone. BUT when he was alone he understood what he had lost!
Well this theory is altogether different but what KNOCKED me was, HE RETURNED BACK, he returned to home, to parents, to wife, to child, to normal life. He returned to a second chance... BUT....  But do he deserve it? This is what strike me... 
Two thoughts...
First, NO, he should be abandoned. He left coz he thought he had choice whether he wanted to give love and affection that was his first duty towards his family. So now his family should also get equal right to choose, him or no more of him.
Second, YES, he returned coz he LEARNT life isn't about leaving the battle field and running away but about fighting the battle together with the help of loved ones. He learned the LESSON.

Second one mature understanding but equally difficult to implement. First one a general perception or line of action. It's always easy to follow general perception BUT it's not a cake walk to do second one.
Funny fact is, IT'S MUCH MORE EASIER TO HAVE A THIRD PERSON VIEW, like am doing right now, AND CONCLUDE ON WHAT COULD BE DONE OR WHAT SHOULD BE DONE BUT ACTUAL FACT IS ONE WHO BEARS ONLY KNOWS WHAT TO BE DONE...

Well one thing is foresure LIFE ISN'T THAT EASY... 😂

Facing the situation

The difference between saying and doing is when you face the situation you come to know it....  😂

Commitment

Sometimes, when I look at few couples who seems weird in their personalities and from outer perspective they look incompatible, well you may think I'm being judgemental about them but being an observer indeed you do judge, but when you look at their years of relationship with each other the saying looks to have been proved true, true love lies in souls.
I guess what it takes for a long lasting, happy and successful relationship is not COMPATIBILITY but ACCEPTABILITY.
We all agree that No one is perfect. But when we come to choosing or life partner we do end up expecting him/her to be perfect for us. We look at compatibility rather then the acceptance level.
Generally if you'll see, we have so many relations that we share in our day to day life. We have firstly our Parents then our siblings then cousins, other relatives and friends. Out of all only our friends are the one whom we choose. But those who are with us from always and will be with us forever are our family members and you know the strangest fact? We get our family by birth. We don't get choice. From starting we know he is my dad, she is my mom, he&/she is Bro&/Sis and so on. We never judge them. I've never heard anyone saying, I wish he was my father instead of my dad or she was my mother or so...  But when it comes to spouse, at least in today's generation it is like, so DAMN strange when I hear relationships break coz people are not happy with each other and end up with divorce and then remarriage. I'm not against divorce or remarriage but it's like when you feel like you have an option with you, people are tend to exercise the same i guess. Whereas, a true relationship is accepting others flaws and loving the person more for his/her qualities than trying to throw them out of your life and look for those qualities in someone else and then get involved with them.
Likewise I guess everyone should end up marrying every other person, because we all are unique and everyone has flaws not to forget.

Uff, these social life issues, they're not at all easy to handle... 🙆

Nothing is best forever!

The other day one of my friend looking at the newly constructed building exclaimed, WOW! I wish I would have had home in such a best building 🏢. Then the another friend said, you've not seen many good buildings yet it seems. This isn't the best one, in fact not even one of the best to what I've seen. To this conversation of theirs I wondered something, is there anything or anyone as Best forever and everything?
This best should be the best by all means and for everyone and everything. I don't think if such a thing can be possible! What makes something or someone BEST in our eyes is OUR PERCEPTION! And everyone has different perception/outlook for different matters. No two minds think alike.
Hence it's just within our mind that something or someone is BEST not otherwise it is true...
Similarly, if I apply the same theory to our life then, if whatever we do in our life if it doesn't makes others feel that that thing is good for us then it's their PERCEPTION and not that we're doing something wrong! 😛😞
Hence LOVE 😍 the things you do and be confident 💖👍✌

Lost in Transit

Sadly, 😯 I lost my two blog posts due to the error in the app of the Blogger!😠
What yaar, thought once came and imprinted cannot be retrieved back same as it is! 😧😰

31st wedding anniversary of my Parents

Today Mom and Dad completed 31 years of marital experience with each other.
💑👫
Awesome isn't it? 😃
Indian wedding are mostly arranged by their families. In previous generation they use to meet their mates only after marriage. So strange, now at least people get choice to decide and yet they seems to be having difficulty in keeping up with their relationship.
May be people were more patient then and now more rightful. Now no one wish to do any compromise for the whole life. But isn't TRUE LOVE all about SACRIFICE too?
Well, I can write for hours on this topic I guess but would like to over flow my thoughts some other day. 😉😁

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY MOM DAD! 😊😘
LOVE YOU BOTH a lot. 😍💝

Living to live more...

Sometimes you just love to be on your own... No known person around you to talk to but your voice which you listen to. Just your heartbeat, your brain, your body and soul that you think about and also about others but not listening to someone or talking to someone but to yourself. You and your thoughts and the cool breeze coming from window of the train at night. Everything out of window seems running back but the true fact is you are moving ahead towards your destination.
At that moment you don't even wish to listen to songs but sing your own song, from deep inside your heart.
Analysing your life, analysing yourself, your character, your values, your true self, your day, your surrounding, your wishes, your dreams, your desires, your accomplishments, your life's sweet memories. Collecting all positive thoughts and memories and making bunch of it and tying it tight and keeping it in the centre of your heart and mind that gives you peace, self satisfaction, pride, happiness now and you save that bunch of happiness for future and keep adding to it more of the happiness.

Life is so amazing that when I listen about MOKSHA, I feel I want to relive life and understand it more and more and become better person in every life than I was in previous one. And may be after I have fulfilled all my dreams may my soul rest in peace. Until then I wish to live life to have the truth in me, to have the best character, to learn each day new values and culture for my betterment as a person, to get love as much as I can and to give love more than I get, to live life in such a way that my heart and soul live at peace from inside, not for money, not for luxury, not for hate, not for revenge, not for people, not for success, not for anything else but for my learning...
I bow to my life in contention and happiness, for beauty it has and for it's love and blessings.

Thank you

I'm grateful for my life for I'm born normal, because I got lovely family who loves me, cares for me, who had nurtured me and so much they've done for me, it's priceless and unexplained in words.
I'm thankful for all people that I've ever met, known, talked to because of them I've always learnt so much that I would not have learnt otherwise in books, about this life.

But I'm very very thankful for having the education that I got. I'm more mature, intelligent and could earn my living coz of it. I'm happy to have got superb teachers who not only taught me about books but about life too. They're all great people and I'm very grateful to have learnt from them all.

I'm much much thankful to have got such superb friends. They're not only intelligent but are superb persons too. Humble, understanding, mature, helpful, loving, caring and most supportive. I've learnt so much from each of my friends too. I'm lucky to have all of them in my life. They've inspired me when I needed, they supported me when I was broken, they helped me to forget all negative thoughts and helped me in having a positive look out for life. Without them, I would not have been what I'm. All my friends play very important role in my life and I'm blessed to have them in my life. May we remain friends forever. Though I know itna jaldi picha chodne wale nahi hai unlog! :-P ;-)

I'm most grateful to have been able to READ coz of which my life could take new shapes and become better. All those superb writers whose books I've read, their writing has not only inspired me but have many times given me new life, new means to live. I'm truly grateful to them all. Hoping to read more great works by great people.

Last but not least, to all those who have given me respect, who give me values, who consider me as their asset, who believe in me, who have faith in me, who trust me, who LOVE me truly, who have given me all their love and affection, may be in any form or expressed in any way. I'm very very thankful to all those lovely people.

Thank you GOD, for giving me this life!
I'm short of words to thank you God and I got no reason to tell you why I'm so grateful to you, you know it all, they say. So thank you for you know ALL! ;-)
:-)

May God keep their blessings on me and all of us, forever.

Think before you do anything...

Never regret what you've done and never do anything that you'll ever regret.

Ekla chalo re...

Not always there will be someone with you. They might come with implication that they'll remain forever with us in this journey but due to their own constraints they might not fulfill this implied promise. But I've now learnt to walk alone on my ways on fulfillment of my dreams! After all it's my path, it's a test whether I can do it all alone or not!
Well... I think I CAN!
I was blessed that someone accompanied me, for few moment though, but now I've to continue my path alone, hoping sometime later someone or same one will again come to my company. Till then... I'm moving ahead without any complaints from anyone but happily towards my path.. my journey...

Who are you?

I'm a daughter to my parents. I'm a sister to my brothers or sisters. I'm a friend to my friends. I'm an employee to my boss. I'm a wife to my husband. I'm a sister-in-law/ daughter-in-law to my in-laws. I'm a mother to my children. I'm a helper to my neighbours. I'm an anchor to my sports team. I'm this... I'm that... But who am I to myself?  Yes?
This question had made me restless. I do this and that for others who expect from me for some or other reason called love and affection sometimes or sometimes it's some sheer responsibility of mine being associated to them. But what about things I've to do in life? What about things that I love to do, I would love to do, I had to do for me, my own happiness? What? Nothing! Huh...
In fulfilling desires and wishes and expectations of others around us we completely forget our own individuality, our own wills, desires, choices, aims, goals and everything else... Just because we can't hurt others, we can't crush their dreams, their hopes, their expectations, etc...
But this life of ours is also one na! What about it? In living for others one day our last day will come and then we'd regret on our death bed for not doing anything we desired. Though there will be thousands of people praising you being good to them but had you been good to yourself? This question will not cease with their fulfillment of desires.
Please know what's your dream, what's your aim, goal, what's your idea about your own life? What is it? Know it and follow it...
I will try it for myself hope you know yours.

Struggle to live

When I think about SUICIDE it only gives one thought to me, I've struggled so much to come on this earth, I had been trapped for 9 months into a womb. I had struggled so much and learnt to walk, talk, think, laugh, cry, feel... I had struggled so much to do so many things and just because something, I know this something meant big, it might have meant life for you, but in no way could it be more than your life. No! Cannot! Never! Just remember all the struggles you did to live till now and think whether this one thing can erase the efforts of all past struggles and make you lose everything including your self respect! Yes, indeed, none of suicider had ever been praised but always being tagged as a loser who cannot win over his/her own emotions. Decision of dying can surely not be easy but dying probably is than living. Face yourself, your situation, your problem, others and make your life worthy.

Disclaimer: I wondered all this after watching suicide scene in Dhoom-3!
Nothing serious guys, calm down! :-P

मनुष्य की क्या कीमत है ?

मनुष्य की कीमत !
लोहे की दुकान में अपने पिता के साथ काम कर
रहे एक बालक ने अचानक ही अपने पिता से
पुछा – “पिताजी इस दुनिया में मनुष्य
की क्या कीमत होती है ?”
पिताजी एक छोटे से बच्चे से ऐसा गंभीर सवाल
सुन कर हैरान रह गये.
फिर वे बोले “बेटे एक मनुष्य की कीमत
आंकना बहुत मुश्किल है, वो तो अनमोल है.”
बालक – क्या सभी उतना ही कीमती और
महत्त्वपूर्ण हैं ?
पिताजी – हाँ बेटे.
बालक कुछ समझा नही उसने फिर सवाल
किया – तो फिर इस दुनिया मे कोई गरीब
तो कोई अमीर क्यो है?
किसी की कम रिस्पेक्ट
तो कीसी की ज्यादा क्यो होती है?
सवाल सुनकर पिताजी कुछ देर तक शांत रहे और
फिर बालक से स्टोर रूम में पड़ा एक लोहे
का रॉड लाने को कहा.
रॉड लाते ही पिताजी ने पुछा –
इसकी क्या कीमत होगी?
बालक – 200 रूपये.
पिताजी – अगर मै इसके बहुत से छोटे-छटे कील
बना दू तो इसकी क्या कीमत हो जायेगी ?
बालक कुछ देर सोच कर बोला – तब तो ये और
महंगा बिकेगा लगभग 1000 रूपये का .
पिताजी – अगर मै इस लोहे से घड़ी के बहुत
सारे स्प्रिंग बना दूँ तो?
बालक कुछ देर गणना करता रहा और फिर एकदम
से उत्साहित होकर बोला ” तब
तो इसकी कीमत बहुत ज्यादा हो जायेगी.”
फिर पिताजी उसे समझाते हुए बोले – “ठीक
इसी तरह मनुष्य की कीमत इसमे नही है
की अभी वो क्या है, बल्की इसमे है कि वो अपने
आप को क्या बना सकता है.”
बालक अपने पिता की बात समझ चुका था .
Friends अक्सर हम अपनी सही कीमत आंकने मे
गलती कर देते है. हम अपनी present
status को देख कर अपने आप को valueless
समझने लगते है. लेकिन हममें हमेशा अथाह
शक्ति होती है. हमारा जीवन
हमेशा सम्भावनाओ से भरा होता है.
हमारी जीवन मे कई बार
स्थितियाँ अच्छी नही होती है पर इससे
हमारी Value कम नही होती है. मनुष्य के रूप
में हमारा जन्म इस दुनिया मे हुआ है
इसका मतलब है हम बहुत special और
important हैं . हमें हमेशा अपने आप
को improve करते रहना चाहिये और
अपनी सही कीमत प्राप्त करने की दिशा में
बढ़ते रहना चाहिये...

Received this as message, liked the thought! :-)

More about love!

Coming back to fiction world, it feels different yet it brings in mind or for that matter heart new thoughts or feelings. Love stories, I have always had special place for this genre. What you don't get into reality you always try to find it in imagination. Love is over hyped, over rated or over criticized but we can't deny it's existence. Even though fictional stories they may be but what a mind can think while writing could possibly be something otta life's experience. There are so many lives in the world, probability of that fiction being reality for someone cannot be less! Human being is a social animal and without socializing life cannot be complete and to live life optimally one have to read all stages of life and also cross them successfully. Skipping even one of it would mean less value to the human life than others!
Of course love comes to many and it remains with few! But those who are destined will meet and others will get separated unknowingly and unwillingly. Sometimes "TIME" plays very important role! If it's not your time to have it you'll lose it but if it'll be your time of love you'll definitely get it in this lifetime itself otta blue moon may be, but you'll get it! :-)
So, have faith in you, your love and your destiny!
Keep patience, keep living and keep loving! ;-)

Few quotes

It is better to stay silent and be thought wise than open your mouth and be proven foolish.

Time is heartless. When you want it to move slower, it flies and when you are waiting for something important, it crawls.

These are few quotes I found worth sharing while reading the book.