Today, life has taught me some lessons.
Recently, I'm at an Audit of a Private Limited Co., where I met this person, who is the head of the Accounts department. She is working with this organisation since past 15 years. I sit next to her, as I can approach her for my queries very easily, if she's nearby. I'm meeting her since past 10 days. But today, out of our general talks, I very commonly asked her how many kids she have? She said that she have none! I was embarrassed, but then I never expected that something like this would happen, if I ask somebody such a common question. I asked her then why don't she adopt a child? She was looking very sad, I cursed to myself for interfering into her personal matter. She didn't mind my question and just nodded a, NO! To change the topic, I asked something which complicated things more than before. I asked her what did her husband do? And I was shocked to know that her husband was no more in this world.
Two years back it so happened that her husband was watching T. V. and she was in the kitchen, all of sudden he got an attack and all he could do was just call out her name, she ran to watch out as to what has happened and he was unconscious by the time she reached out for him. She immediately took him to the hospital. Doctors declared that her husband had a brain hammerage and then he was in comma for 5 days.
Her eyes started watering while telling this incident to me. I wanted to stop her so that she don't get hurt more by remembering all that had happened to her. But then I didn't had courage to say anything. I was dumb, was not able to move nor I was in the state of knowing what should be done in such situations? I thought that may be I should give her my ears, may be she need a listener who can listen to all she want to say, may be she wanted to get that feeling out from her. Sometimes we seriously need somebody who can just listen to us, so was I doing. She continued that how after 5 days of critical situation her husband never recovered nor he said any last words, his last words were only those when he had the attack, i.e. he called out her name.
Recently, I'm at an Audit of a Private Limited Co., where I met this person, who is the head of the Accounts department. She is working with this organisation since past 15 years. I sit next to her, as I can approach her for my queries very easily, if she's nearby. I'm meeting her since past 10 days. But today, out of our general talks, I very commonly asked her how many kids she have? She said that she have none! I was embarrassed, but then I never expected that something like this would happen, if I ask somebody such a common question. I asked her then why don't she adopt a child? She was looking very sad, I cursed to myself for interfering into her personal matter. She didn't mind my question and just nodded a, NO! To change the topic, I asked something which complicated things more than before. I asked her what did her husband do? And I was shocked to know that her husband was no more in this world.
Two years back it so happened that her husband was watching T. V. and she was in the kitchen, all of sudden he got an attack and all he could do was just call out her name, she ran to watch out as to what has happened and he was unconscious by the time she reached out for him. She immediately took him to the hospital. Doctors declared that her husband had a brain hammerage and then he was in comma for 5 days.
Her eyes started watering while telling this incident to me. I wanted to stop her so that she don't get hurt more by remembering all that had happened to her. But then I didn't had courage to say anything. I was dumb, was not able to move nor I was in the state of knowing what should be done in such situations? I thought that may be I should give her my ears, may be she need a listener who can listen to all she want to say, may be she wanted to get that feeling out from her. Sometimes we seriously need somebody who can just listen to us, so was I doing. She continued that how after 5 days of critical situation her husband never recovered nor he said any last words, his last words were only those when he had the attack, i.e. he called out her name.
After all this sudden collapse of her dreams, she was into depression. But her Mother-in-law was the one who supported her the most. In fact, she after her husbands death removed all her accessories, which in our Hindus tradition we consider as symbol of married women. But her mother-in-law refused and in front of every one she declared that her daughter-in-law will continue to live as she lived before. In fact she wears the Mangalsutra and a bindi even today, that is why I didn't expected that something like this would have happened with her! Her mother-in-law in fact asked her that if she wants she can get married once again. But she said me that, she never wanted to be with anybody but her husband, that she had always loved him and will always love him only. She got married in an early age and her husband always supported her, that she will never have a person like him. He was the one whom she loved and still loves.
You see, love doesn't die with the person. It remains alive forever.
She was thankful the way her staff and her family helped her out to come out of this tragedy. She was upset that she had been married to only 15years and God took it away all from her. She is a great preacher of God. She day and night prays to God, her belief is that he exists. But after all this she doubt if God has ever recognised her prayers? Had he, he would not have given her so much pain. But still even though her whole life turned upside-down but still she prays to God. She says that, I can't resist God! And that sometimes out of frustration she do asks God as to why he took aways all happiness from her life?
But we know that there is no body who could answer to our questions. Are we not having one sided conversation? We express ourselves to God and he just remains SILENT always!
Why it happens that the person who have more faith in God is the one who suffers more? They say that God examine their faith in that way.
I think that it's good that I don't do much in these regards but am living without expecting from God! Even if you do, we can see what happens then...
I am not afraid of anybody, can't take things the way they comes. Why should we be slaves of somebody? Better I live it in my own way without asking begging anything from anyone even if you do, you will not get any but you will mere expect that they might happen and then end up being sad because they will not.
Everything is already written and things will happen in that fashion only, no matter how hard you try to change them.
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