An incident felt like sharing...
One of long distant relative of mine, a woman in her 30s yesterday got married but very specially!
Living in a village her parents couldn't provide her with the basic health facilities required by every child when she is born and very sadly she suffered from polio! Her body never grew beyond a child's body of around 4-5 year old. She grew up normally with her age, her mind grew, her understanding is normal like us but she failed to grow up physically. Unable to walk on her feets she can manage to perform all her tasks on own somehow. Unwillingly though but she is dependent on her family if not for her general works but for her living and other supports! Really, it's a difficult thing!
She couldn't get education too coz of her Polio.
In Hindus, marriage is considered as a must ritual, (here I will not like to give any of my personal opinion about "the marriage" thing but we all know that somewhere it's considered important for everyone in their lives. There are hardly people who live life without marrying ever. Few even get remarried in their 60s if their spouse die then marrying once is considered a must! That's the way it is!) and she being handicapped it's not possible to find a perfect match for her who can marry her as well as keep her at par to the relation of a wife. Like a normal girl she too had dreams of marriage. In front of her eyes, small cousin sisters got married. Her family and she both felt bad for her broken heart. She too wanted to marry. She too wanted to be a bride. She too wanted a spouse, a life partner. She too wanted to be centre of attraction of everyone, for a day though. She too wanted to be a wife of someone. She too wanted to do makeup of a married woman, the sindoor, mangalsutra, payal, chudi, bichudi, etc.
But how? What could be done for her? Everyone wanted to see her happy coz she was a charming and strong woman but her disheartened emotions were not hidden from anyone too.
Then someone though of an idea which would give her everything that she wanted, happiness and a status of a married woman too!
Yesterday she got married, on the day of Tulsi Vivah to lord Vishnu's avatar Shalagram! All the rituals of real marriage were performed and everything was same like a normal wedding, relatives were called, Pandit, Agni, Havan, Phere, Shadi with lord Krishna's idol!
I was amazed with this thought and the ceremony!
Though due to exams I couldn't attend the wedding but somewhere this incident touched me. I'm happy for her and I hope she remain happy forever now.
In India we always say Pati-Parmeshwar and she really got married to God.
Somewhere I feel it's feelings that are important and not what the reality says. Marriage is a ritual that has to be connected with our heart, if our heart accepts someone to be ours, his/her existence physically doesn't matter (again excluding general expectations of a normal life!) but it's all upon us. If we can accept it nothing is strange and unbelievable and if we can't then real marriages too broke!
I told her that she is lucky, her husband will always listen to her and everything that she wants to say! After all we pray to god for everything we desire and being her husband now it's Gods responsibility to fulfil her desires! :-D
Also, we've heard in stories that lord Krishna married women who needed his support that is why he have 108 or so wives.
I'm amazed and surprised with my own reaction to this incident! :O
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