Goal setting

Goals...
Suddenly I realised it's October, 2016!
Only 3 months left of this year 2016.
Years pass by... Time keeps moving... But am I moving ahead anywhere? Even if the answer to the same is affirmative then am I moving the way I wish to? Am I moving in the direction I wish to? Am I moving ahead on the path which will lead me to the end I wish to achieve?
Have you ever wondered?
At the start of every year we try to follow the tradition of making THE NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS! What was your resolution for the year 2016? Or even if you don't believe in making any such list, still there would have been some idea to figure out your life for this year. So where do you place yourself today? Have you moved ahead?
My answer was NO. Sad. But this answer made me think why there answer is NO? The answer was I did not keep specific goals or if the goals were specific they weren't kept reminded by myself to me.
I just made them, felt happy and that's it. I didn't go back to it but just kept living. Day by day passed and here came a day when it hit me back that 9 months out of 12 are gone. That's not that sad I know but just think if the same statement would be that 50years out of 70years are passed! Now you get the panic attack you will get at that point. Also you have to agree that in that age you will not be able to do each and every thing that you would have done at 20 or 30 or 40.
So... You know now that each day that just pass by unnoticed by yourself is actually an opportunity lost by you to be YOU!
What's the point that I'm trying to make?
Take a pen and paper, or just go to that board you have placed in your room where it's in front of your eye daily, or use your gadget best and put a sticky note on your home screen of phone or laptop.
Make following list for example:
1. Personal Goals
(List of things you want to do just and just and just for yourself. Forget all restrictions you might have, social or financial. Just write what you want yourself to achieve. What you want to learn? What you want to experience? The movie that you missed watching in theatre but thought of watching later,  or may be you downloaded but never watched. That hobby that you always wanted to pursue. That trip that you wanted to go on. That diary that you wanted to write. That morning you wanted to spent meditating... That recipe you wanted to try on your own. List is endless isn't it? Write it down...)
2. Professional Goals
(What and where you want to reach in your professional field? What actions and decisions you need to take to reach there? The position you want to be in? The award you want to win?)

3. Family Goals
(What you want to do for your family and friends? That promise you made to your parents but haven't yet fulfilled. That call you wanted to make or just dropping that text after years to an old friend who was dearest. List it...)

4. Social Goals
(You had thought you would do something for helpless ones. That tree which you wanted to plant. That area you wanted to clean near your surrounding. That awareness you wanted to create. That good deed you wanted to do secretly. List it...)

Add any more categories if you feel like...
But in front of each categories each goal put that specific dates or month or year. You have to keep the target to achieve our it'll end up being an unachieved goal which isn't out motto.
Keep striking of achieved goals....
Keep adding new ones...
Would it be exciting to achieve them?
Go get it...

Baar baar dekho...

After I had seen the promos I wanted to see this piece though reviews weren't motivating enough to go ahead but still I heard of my heart and went ahead. And once again my heart didn't let me to disappointment. It wasn't bad at all! No offense towards the critics. May be what I perceived was what they couldn't.
Basically it's story of couple in love since childhood. There comes a stage when they fall into deciding to get tie the knots. Our man here, Siddharth Malhotra, gets nervous just like any other person in such a situation would. He isn't sure if he should choose his marriage over his better career opportunity. Since the inception of time human beings are designed certain way. Men were assigned the duty to be the earners for the family whilst women became designers of nurturing the family and children. In the modern era decided to shift certain rules. Women empowerment lead to making them more powerful and achieve everything else that a man could do. Not forgetting that their essential character still is imbibed in them and despite being able-to-achieve-everything still she cannot compromise on with not talking care of her children and man. Similarly, a man always thinks of achieving great things in life for that is their essential character, to earn for his family. Very rarely though few might have broadened their horizon till date and thought of changing nappies along.
Siddharth, feels insecure about his career looking at the influence his would be father-in-law had over her daughter and her life. No one has the right to rule others life. He tries to run away from the situation that was suffocating his rather than it should have made him happy for starting a new phase. Suddenly next morning he wakes up being on his honeymoon beside his wife, of which he was not sure tying knots with. He panics for he didn't remembered when did they get married! Katrina did manages well Siddhartha's weird behaviour about he not remembering their marriage. Siddharth decided to enjoy the moment for he did love her.
Next morning Siddharth wakes up two years in the future where Kat was throwing pillows on him, they were in UK where he had got his job as a Mathematician at Harvard university(if I'm not wrong!😅) Kat was having labor pain while Siddharth want able to figure out what the heck was going on... How could his life move so great ahead. But he didn't had time to analyze anything as his baby was about to born. They drive to the hospital. Seeing his baby and taking him in his arms he learns being a father is a valuable attribute. He tries to settle with this feeling for the day that he was a father of a baby boy!
Next day comes and he wakes up 10 years ahead. He was father of two children. He goes to the university where he dreamt of teaching. He gets promotion. In all his work and professional life he find it difficult to find time for his wife and children. They're not happy with him.
Next day he wakes up being 42! His son who was in teenage now drives him the court. Clueless he goes in and then he gets divorced. His world seem collapsed. His children doesn't love him, his wife was not happy with him in the marriage for he never had participated in any family moments.
Siddharth cries, begs to God for one chance to change his life. He couldn't imagine his life without his family.
In next phase he wakes up to the day where he finds his children and wife around him but that was the day when his mother was no more. He regret that he couldn't tell his mother how much he loved her. Then he realises that Katrina was no longer his wife but he married someone who supported her dreams and was also with children when needed. He knew he had failed. He was successful and had a profession he always dreamt of having but no one around him to love him.
He learned that it's essential to BALANCE life. Happiness is living in small moments rather than in big achievements. If it's duty to work then it's also a man's responsibility to ensure that his wife and children are getting enough of emotional support from him.

I loved the lesson that this movie had also the way it was shown was also different.
Baar baar bhale hi matt dekho but it's worth watching once. 😉

Mannat

As the train trail towards the destination, Lal Baugh, I couldn't resist thinking of a concept... MANNAT!
The fabulous and the famous festival of India and particularly of Maharashtra has begun, GANESH CHATHURTHI!
Lal Baugh cha Raja has been more so auspicious. Though personally I am believer that God exists everywhere around us and there is no difference but still I would admit it that I do end up visiting Lal Baugh every year. There is indeed a pull that drives me.
The very first time I had gone to Navas(Mannat) que. It took us 18 hours to get the Darshan. We were tired, sleepless, hungry... It's said that every wish of your get fulfilled. Well! No offence but mine didn't get fulfilled. In fact to be honest, mine never got fulfilled ever like this! And when it happened to me for the first time I blamed God for it, when it repeated I slowly started blaming myself too for I may be failing somewhere in my prayers or hopes I felt. But then there were times when I prayed whole heatedly still nothing seemed to work for me.
I was raged! I thought I was being fooled, misguided, cheated and what not!
I became atheist. From a strong believer to no believer of God. Anyone would, isn't it? I wanted to ask God why? But he never seemed to answer. I wanted to know the reason... And long ahead once I got my answer...
He the almighty knows it all. May be we don't need to strive hard over trying to convince him to do some miraculous magic for us but may be we need to divert those hard efforts on getting the thing we want by ourselves. No offence! I'm not saying those who get their wishes fulfilled are faking it or anything negative about it. I respect them and their emotions and spiritual values equally but I'm not the one from that category. And I believe that God has made me powerful enough to get myself everything with my own karma... May be we don't need to even ask for it from him for he the almighty knows it by himself more than we ourselves what we want!
It's also a fact that Gods plans are always better than ours!😊😉
Ganpati bappa morya!

They were strangers...

They were strangers.
He felt something for her which was strange and unique.
He grabbed every opportunity to be around her, listen to her, talk to her, topic didn't mattered.
He trusted her and made her laugh.
She developed soft corner for him.
She trusted him the most.
They talked day and night, about everything.
They worked together, laughed together, played together.
Physical distance came between them.
They talked but he got busy in work.
They shared but he cared less.
She complained but he had nothing to say.
They missed but it became a habit.
They lived but now apart.
She wanted him as before but that was lost long.
She tried to remind but he forgot.
She cried out while he doze off.
She tried to show but he couldn't see the difference.
He ignored, She roared.
He slept as tired, she stood awake as tired.
She wanted to talk, he said I've my own life too.
He went ahead, she dragged behind.
He let go, she held hard.
He hurt, she hurt.
He went, she left.
They were strangers again...

Strange Dilemma...

Whenever I see any beggar it just gives a confused and strange pinching feeling. Whether something could be don't for them? If yes, what? Giving them money, I don't know but I don't prefer until it's someone old or handicapped. It's very difficult to decide what's right and wrong in such a situation.
I wish if there could be something that could be done for them about their long term benefit where they could themselves earn their living with dignity and honour and feed themselves and the family.

I hope and pray that God help them.

Isn't it that there are many people in more difficulty than us? But we're always occupied in our situations. I feel blessed to have had normal body and a good living with almost all luxuries and stomach always full. Thank you God.

Marriage celebration cum school reunion

Saturday morning, 27th Feb, 2016, on the wheels were Prati, Sara, Kanchi, Nutu and me... As we left behind our respective houses, slowly after years it was when we all were together. Heading towards the event of one of our school days friend Suppu's wedding. We all seated comfortable in Prati's Amaze which actually amazed us while she drove. It was so much fun to be together after so many years. Everyone was busy in their lives and different career that they chose post our SSC. Though few of us were in touch but not all. Ideally we should be talking about our lives or at least about the old days but... .... they were yawning. Indeed Saturday weekend is meant to be relaxing while we forced ourselves to get up on usual time of weekdays and get ready. Not that getting ready was a matter of complaint, it could never be for girls 😜 but getting otta bed was surely a pain. The other peer pressure to keep us silent was TO-SAVE-MAKEUP-TILL-THE-LAST-CLICK... yeah we took pains to get ready, look hot and gorgeous in our own ways and the mission was to get the best shot at the reception. There were hours left and we didn't wanted to ruin our morning efforts of hours that we took sacrificing our precious sleep. But girls can never be completely quite as well no matter even if their makeup is at high stake... 😅 The mouth opener was outdated songs that were being played by Prati. Agreed that she gave us a ride but that doesn't mean to give us headache with those songs from 80's or 90's. We made faces and comments came from everyone on each song being played... Fun was getting started. The fact that we were all together was the good reason for us to know that we all were back to the memories of our childhood. While I took different selfie of everyone from the front, Nutu was damn busy with her phone, checking out her makeup, Sara, despite threatening her that her makeup will be ruined doze off, Kancu is a silent one. So me and Prati were only left with chatting. We are school days best buddies. I was more of observing how she was driving. IT WAS FREAKING AWESOME MAN! I said myself. I was completely mesmerised and went to the day dream of myself driving a car and taking my parents and friend out with me.
Well, secondary if they would risk their lives to fulfill my dream. 😂 I do feel it's a great task to drive, that too a four wheeler it's much big task, to manage accelerator, gear, steering, everything along with being present minded on road as well as inside with the passengers, but on the other hand I feel it's what do many people could do so it'll not be that difficult too.😉🙆

As we reached, getting out of car was as if someone put us to furnace, it was HOT. We climbed upstairs and reached the hall. All our eyes wanted to see was our friend Suppu in the bridal look. There was time for it, we were thirsty and there came tray of soft drink and two of us picked the orange ones while others were black. Other girls too wanted orange one, they waited... Came the next guy with only one orange filled glass... Again few waited. Finally next time he brought all orange glasses... Hehehe.... Yeah we love orange one, all of us. We slowly started our philosophies about marriage, the theme effect probably. Few said they hate it, few said they will wait for it, few happy about it while few with no thought about it. We all had our own perception about it. Though we all agreed... EK DIN KARNI PADEGI-NO MATTER WHAT! 😂 This is India after all.
Our bride came and like every bride, she was looking the most beautiful. It was her day indeed. She was the heroine of the event. The traditional Maharashtrian wedding started. We had other three Maharashtrian buddies in the group. Sitting next to Prati, I was asking her about the meaning of the ceremony, though less knowledge we have about the ceremony but I was excited about the whole event. I love to see the marriage  ritual being performed. I just get divine feeling. As it's said, "MARRIAGES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN BUT PERFORMED ON EARTH." So was this ceremony taking place on earth in front of us. The wishes came straight from the heart while witnessing the wedding for our friend,"Love is wonderful to be fallen in,
But more pleasurable is the journey to live that love within...
The divinity of a marriage have thrived from heaven to earth,
May your life blossom in this relationship ahead in this path..."
We all showered the colourful rice slowly on the couple on it being said, "SHUBH MANGAL SAVADHAN" by the Pandit. It felt funny and cute to do like that. I've seen and heard about it on TV before.
After the ceremony of SAATH PHERE the bride and groom went to get ready for the reception. In between for those who got bored and were yawning we clicked lots of selfie and Nutu clicked best pics of our newly married couple. They not only looked beautiful but were very notorious and looked very happy together.
Our stomachs were roaring for the food. Meanwhile stepping towards it we met one of our school teacher. She was very happy to see us all grown up from little girls to young ladies. Indeed she don't recognise us but it's not expected either. Faces are always remembered though names might get forgotten.
We ate our stomach full. The food was delicious. Sara and I had more of our focus on the desert, being it's fan. It was Strawberry Basundi, a new experience.   YUMMMMMMM....
We stepped back to the reception, alive for the click on the stage. There was long que which we all hate but couldn't help. Doing masti together diverted our focus and we reached the couples quicker than we thought. We congratulated the couples. Our friend who looked gorgeous from far shocked us from near view. MAKEUP over and above required was put up. This became the gossip amongst us as we drove back...
We fought for the next song to be played, we cheered up for even the saddest songs.
Most exciting number was, "CHADHI MUJHE YAARI TERI AISI JAISE DARU DESI... We shouted the lyrics in sync as it was what we felt. Even before this trip ends we had more plans being made. Our dream being making road trip to GOGOGOGOGOAAAAAAAA...
Without much ado everyone dragged me for movie NEERJA. I wanted to see it but I had told home will be back at evening which got into late evening as movie ended around 8pm! I didn't wanted to see this movie on that day, because we had such blasting day and watching a serious movie like this will shift the mood from north pole to south I knew. But we wanted to see a movie together and it was it. We were all in shock as it ended. I MISSED MY MUM so much during whole movie. I wanted to hug her tightly. I LOVE HER THE MOST... MMMMUUUAAAHHHH MOM 😘

We hugged  each other bye and the day became one of the most memorable one to be recorded in here on my blog.😊

Of love...

Your whole life you try to find someone who can love you immensely and who can be with you through all roughs and smooths. You turn whole your world upside down and love so much that you loose yourself in this process, in making each other ONE!
But in this whole process you completely forget yourself...
The worst is not losing someone you love but it's losing yourself in the process of loving someone...
Until you find love and self respect in  yourself for you, you won't be able to find true love. And when you realise your own love in your heart there won't come any need to find something outside when you have it in ample for yourself.

Most difficult thing is not to love someone forever but to love yourself the most than anyone can ever to you or you to someone!

This Valentine be special for yourself!😊

Silence speaks in loudly...

It always felt necessary to give detailed explanation for any acts done for anything intended to do. Just for sake of avoiding any misunderstanding and misconceptions. To have clear understanding everything was said and explained clearly. That's needed it felt. Also similar acts were EXPECTED in return.

Afterwards now...

Nothing is said, directly done...
Nothing is explained, everything is understood... Even if not understood there is no more fear of any happening of misunderstanding!
No expostulations are asked for nor given any!
Not all feelings are expressed but supposed to remain in for now it's understood well that FEW FEELINGS ARE WELL EXPLAINED THROUGH SILENCE...

SILENCE IS POWERFUL... MOST POWERFUL THAN WORDS COULD SPEAK!

From dark to DAWN...

When there is darkness it really seems like there might never be a dawn... You forget what morning looks like.? What day light was like? And biggest fear that always surrounds is, WHETHER THERE WILL BE DAWN BREAKING?
Slowly you try to get adjusted to the night... Find hope in the moon and on no moon days even in small stars...
Then... Then you decide to keep up the hope coz that is what you know is the essence. You remember that you're not the only one in the dark nor you've been alone not you'll be... People came here, stayed for as long as it was destined and then they did saw their victory sun... This victory sun of theirs, which gives you the hope, nothing and no one else can give. That feels like something usual... Phew! It gives you some air to breathe. YOU'RE NOT ALONE... YOU'VE NOT BEEN ALONE... YOU'LL NOT BE ALONE... YES, this sounds normal. You can breathe now... You feel good that if you've not been the only one to be in the dark then probably you'll not have to be the only one to remain in this dark forever as well... DAWN WILL BREAK  UPON ME, you exclaim. You go through the journey of those who have successfully returned back in the best phase. KEEP THE HOPE... BE GRATEFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE FOR FEW DON'T HAVE AND HAD EVEN THIS... BE GRATEFUL... GRATITUDE WILL LIFT YOUR LIFE TO WHERE YOU WANT TO BE OR EVEN AHEAD OF WHERE YOU DREAM TO BE!
You determine, no matter what I'll be grateful; because if you realise then you'll accept that you've been blessed with so many things even if you feel you are in the worst of situations. You start to thank for what you had. Slowly you stated appreciating the stars that are still there for you... Then the moon too... And you remember the sun that was there. You understand that you never appreciated the sun when you had... You thank it... keep thanking... keep hoping... keep dreaming... keep being the best you could be...
AND THEN YOU NEVER REALISE WHEN SLOWLY THE SUN DAWNED.... Piercing the clouds, thick and dark ones... It came all the way fighting for you coz YOU REMEMBERED IT. YOU THANKED IT FOR WHAT HE DID, YOU MISSED IT AND IT WANTED TO LISTEN MORE OF THE THANK YOU from you...
YOU FEEL ALIVE AGAIN... YOU FEEL GREAT... ON THE TOP OF THE WORLD and then you just forget all the pains you faced and remember your learning...
Be grateful for whatever you have, you'll get more reasons to be thankful for...
YOU SAY THANK YOU FROM THE DEPTH OF YOUR HEART AND IT REACHES ANOTHER HEART...😀

Who are you?

Sometimes you don't know what it is that life want you to do. You need to search your objectives but trust me it's not an easy job!
May be you just need to take a deep breath, take a bag pack (of thoughts) and start moving.
May be now waiting for the correct time is not sufficient. You need to move your feet.
Search yourself in every nook and corner of the world and decide if this is THE REAL YOU!